If you dream (or manifest) it, it will come
Is that really possible?
If I focus on my thoughts, I mean, live and breathe it… can it happen? We all want something more for ourselves. Whether you have a vision board or have a goal of winning a specific title, you are manifesting for a better you.
Girl Boss reached out to Roxie Nafousi, the author of Manifest: 7 Steps to Living Your Best Life to explain the ins and outs.
“It’s not a trend, it’s not just about visualizing what you want, but it’s really a self-development practice. Manifesting isn't something you do, it's a way of living. It enables you to embody the highest version of yourself.” - Roxie Nafous
Nafousi shares some manifestation tips for beginners:
Prioritize your self-worth
“It’s actually about having gratitude for all that you already have. It’s about stepping outside your comfort zone, it’s about taking action and being proactive. Often, if we are lacking in that self-belief, we’re not able to even envision what we want. And that can be a telltale sign at the beginning that we have some inner work to do; some inner healing to do. The message you should send to the universe is, ‘I love myself and I believe I am worthy of love and abundance and success.’ Everything you do is a representation of that.”
Learn to trust your gut
“When you have that gut instinct, where you just know something’s going to happen, those are signs that you’re in flow, you’re manifesting, you’re in tune with your instincts. The more we notice it, the more we can recognize our own power.”
Hone in on your vision
“Be as detailed as you can about what it is you’re looking for,” says Nafousi. As an example, say to yourself, I want XYZ title by the time I’m 19 years old. I want to work with two different coaches, own a Rachel Allen dress and three sets of Rhinestone Lipgloss earrings. It might sound silly, but the more specific, the better.
Don't limit yourself
Don’t just write down things you know you can achieve, dream bigger. “There is limitless potential and opportunity. So dream big, don’t stop yourself with the first hurdle.”
Speak it into existence
Make it known. Say your goals and dreams to a friend. When you say it out loud, it will only advance the chances of it happening. Plus, you never know who could help you out!
Turn envy into inspiration
“…the next time you’re jealous of your friend, remind yourself that this is a sign of something that you want. Change your thoughts of “I’m not enough” to “Wow, isn’t that incredible? I’m so excited to have that for myself,” says Nafousi.
Re-frame negative self-talk
Don’t say things like, “I knew I wasn’t going to win” or “Of course she would win, she wins everything.” That’s manifesting negatively, which is counterproductive and it’s stopping you from your goals.
Stop trying to control the outcome
Manifesting is not about control, it’s about surrender. Knowing you can’t control the outcome is what is going to help you in that journey to success.
Be persistant
“Anytime you see an opportunity, just do it,” says Nafousi. “Always put yourself out there. Always ask and ask again. If you don’t get a reply, email again. No one ever cares as much as you think they do. No one cares if you double email. No one cares if you’re persistent. When you face rejection, see it as redirection, and trust that something better is out there. Just keep pushing. Keep going. And don’t settle.”
Katie Stien
Katie Stien is a wife, mom of two boys, meeting expert, pig show regular and cowboy boot aficionado. She is also a past title holder, pageant coordinator of more than 12 years, an agriculture advocate and enjoys helping youth be the best versions of themselves. Through Katie’s professional and personal career, she saw a need to connect those in the industry; hence how Queen Connection was born.